As everyone gets older and goes through different experiences, they steadily come to realize that life does not always have the happy ending that they hoped for, and that life is a constant journey with challenges and things to strive for. When you got married, you will have expected that marriage would be one of the only things that would remain constant during your life.
However, even marriage can fall apart and come to an end. If you are on the brink of a divorce, you may be struggling to have a positive attitude and to see the light at the end of the tunnel. The following are some tips for regaining that feeling of positivity and hope during a divorce.
You’re only in competition with yourself
During the divorce, you may fall into the trap of comparing your life with the lives of friends in happy marriages. First, remember that everyone goes through challenges at different points in their life, and no one’s life is without struggles. Second, remember that the only person you need to compete with is yourself. Imagine that you’re the best side and your worst side is in competition. Which one will win today?
Practice being kind to yourself
Everyone makes mistakes, and there’s no point in beating yourself up for the past. Focus on the now, and how you can talk to yourself in a kind way so that you make better decisions going forward.
Ask for help
There is no shame in getting help from friends, family and mental health professionals.
You have an opportunity to reimagine your life
that you should never underestimate: to reinvent every aspect of your life for the better. In a few years, you may look back at your divorce realizing that it was the best thing that ever happened to you.
If you are going through a divorce, start with the positive action of learning how to.